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God Centered Dating Relationship: how to have one
GOOD READ!
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Remember that God’s Love is the ultimate. Knowing the love God has for you means that you do not have to seek fulfillment in how anyone makes you feel (a weakness of human love): the most perfect love comes from God, and it is always yours. He will do much more to fill the love-space than a person ever could. Approach your dating relationship knowing that God likes you
and loves you, and there is plenty room for wonders of love, marriage,
mature family love, i.e.: constancy (not fickleness) thus enabling you
to build and love your own family, of course. (Christians: Always
remember He sent His son, Jesus,
to die for your sins.) Make sure you are strong in your loving
relationship with God. This means knowing that He is always there to
help you along the way. Trust Him. Make God the most important in your life. Make Him the love of your life.
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Know the ideal match for you.
Date someone that you would consider marrying. Choose a person that has
a similar desire for God, one that will build you up in your faith. If
you are already in a relationship, positively encourage one another in
pursuing God. Help your boyfriend or girlfriend to keep God the focus.
Understand that Christians are not to be "unequally yolked" that is, if
they are not willing to accept the faith, the relationship might have to
be sacrificed.
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Pray.
Pray about your dating relationship. Give everything over to God. Let
God know that you are asking His approval. Talk to God about the
problems that arise. Thank Him for the opportunity to be in a
relationship and the happy times you experience. You can also pray with
your boyfriend or girlfriend. It is a good way to help each other out
with whatever stresses life brings. By praying together, you are
experiencing God together. Though, it could make the focus more about
you two building intimacy—still there is a tendency to bring out one
another's faults in prayer; therefore, avoid prodding, interrogating,
judging; instead, help each other in order to build trust; love and forgive each other as the Lord's Prayer models for us.
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Talk about God. Make an
effort to bring God into your conversations. Not only will it help in
keeping God on your minds, you will also find out about each others
beliefs. Talking about a spiritual subject changes
normal conversation into one of eternal significance. Discussing God
also allows you to build up each others knowledge and confidence.
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Read the Bible. Keeping
God’s words in your heart helps you to remember the love and promises He
has for you. Try reading the Bible together. It is fun, spiritual and
good for conversation. Different verses will help you along the way in
your relationship.
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Get involved with Church.
Make sure your boyfriend or girlfriend and you are active in the body
of Christ. You will feel good about sharing God’s love. He calls us to
serve Him.
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Be careful with physical affection.
Hugs are great. God created physical affection to be good. But be
careful in how much physical permission you give one another. A
relationship can easily turn sinful if physical bonding occurs too
quickly. Everyone is different. But if you feel guilty at all for
actions, it may be good indication that you are going too far. Avoid
physical actions that might cause lustful thoughts (such as sitting on
lap, laying on each other or sensual kissing and massages). Save
sex for marriage. Talk about your physical actions with each other,
making sure you are both comfortable and feeling great. Understand what
might be innocent to one or another might very well be dangerous to you.
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Show Christ’s love to each other.
Make sacrifices for each other. Watch a chick flick. Go to a basketball
game. Be willing to serve one another. Put one another above
yourselves. Find how to show love to each other. Use the love God has
shown you and bring it to your boyfriend or girlfriend.
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Bring out all of "The 'Fruit' of the Spirit": notice it is not fruits, we are not to pick and choose the ones we prefer. This will work to relieve stress in relationships in this World of troubles.
- Cheerfully realize this is a package—not bits or pieces: "Love, joy, peace, long-suffering (patience), gentleness (kindness), goodness, meekness (gentleness), faith (faithfulness) and temperance (self-control)... Against such things there is no law.", Galatians 5:22-23 KJV (parentheses NIV).[1] Read those again and again...
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Have Fun and Praise and Glorify God. Smile and know that God is with you. Enjoy the life that God has given the both of you. Whenever you get the chance, praise
God for whatever He has poured into your life. Trust and know that God
has your back. He wants what is best for the both of you.
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Cherish your own personal God time.
Make sure you spend time alone with God. You need moments of reading
the Bible, journaling or praying just between you and God. Since God is
your ultimate love, it is good to have that time alone with Him.
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Keep in mind the reality that God is real.
While having a special someone can bring great happiness in this world,
realizing the eternally wonderful nature of God’s love is something you
do not want to miss. God is real. His love is real. God is love.
Realize that God is working in your life right now. His forgiveness is
real and His promises are real. Give the love God has given you to your
boyfriend or girlfriend. God’s love is perfect. Let Christ’s love reign
in your dating relationship. Let the love you have for each other be a
banner to the world displaying God’s goodness. Remember though, "You are
not your own, you were bought at a price" - therefore God must reign in
your relationships. We are called to be holy, because He is holy. We
might very well have to "honor [our] father and mother, [our] wife and
children, [our] brothers and sisters--yes, even [our] own life--"; our
dating relationships are no exception. Remember, as C.S. Lewis has said,
that love that becomes a god, becomes a demon. Submit all your love,
therefore, to the one that is Love, and He, like a gardener, shall prune
our loves which are so fickle and temporary by nature, into beautiful
gardens which we may share with all our relationships including our
dating relationships.
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